Can my husband also be my pastor?

I’ll admit it. Early on, when I came to the realization that my husband would also be my pastor, I had a myriad of emotions. I admire my husband and fully affirm the Lord’s calling on his life, but I still couldn’t help ask myself “Will I be able to acknowledge him as MY pastor?” Let’s…

How do I pray for my husband?

Praying is one of the most effective things that the wife of a pastor can do for her husband. The spiritual battle that occurs in ministry is real and it is gruesome. When our men wake up every morning they dawn their spiritual armor in preparation for war. When they arrive at the office they…

How do we train up our children?

As a new mom of 4 month old, my life is centered around taking care of my baby girl. I am constantly worried about her well being. Is she growing enough? Is she developing well? I have a certain set of expectations for her and if she doesn’t meet them right on time I instantly…

What if we fail?

If you have been involved in the ministry for any length of time it is hard not to hear the latest news about (insert prominent pastor name) from (insert prominent church) failing in his ministry. Whether the cause of failing is pride, sexual immortality, financial irresponsibility, etc, the news of a well-respected man giving in to sin is…

What if we have to move?

Moving for the sake of the ministry is a likely reality for most young pastors and their wives. When a married couple commits their life and ministry to Christ, they are committing to follow him wherever he leads. For some, this may mean that we accept a position at a church just down the road and we are able…

What if I work too?

There are many reasons why a young pastor’s wife may need to work. Maybe it is primarily for financial reasons: your husband is pursuing more education, he is serving bivocationally, or you are saving up for future expenses. Maybe it is due to your personal calling: You feel God has given you a certain gift and not using it…

Will we have close friends?

When a new pastor and his wife enter a pastorate position, it can be tempting for the couple to monopolize their time with getting to know people in the church and building friendships. It is healthy for the couple to establish relationships, but if they rely solely on interactions within their church, the outcome could be disappointing. As…

Can I give the support my husband needs?

Being in the ministry comes with both blessings and hardships. God has given pastors the serious charge of proclaiming the gospel, shepherding the church, and disciplining it’s members. Although there is great joy in seeing the work of God in action for a pastor, it is also common for pastors to face temptation and adversity within the church. Knowing…

Will I live up to expectation?

When a young pastor’s wife enters the ministry along side her husband, it is common for her to ask, “Will I live up to expectation?” Unfortunately, there can be pressure from the church body for us to conform to who they expect us to be and what they expect us to do in the life of the church. It is…

Am I good enough?

“My husband wants to be a pastor?” Whether he has felt the call for some time or God has just laid it on his heart, the fear of being a pastor’s wife is real for most women. A thought that might enter our minds is “Am I good enough?”  or more specifically, “Have I lived a good life? Am…